...in love with another birth mom!
Well, I'm trying not to, but I think I'm failing! Today's meeting went very well. She is sweet, kind of quiet/shy until she gets to know people like I am, well-spoken, and she has a great sense of humor and good long-term goals for herself.
The meeting lasted about an hour and a half. We began with the always-awkward initial introductions and from there we progressed pretty quickly into really getting acquainted. We started with where we're each from and where we live now, etc. We talked very briefly about our childhoods and the fact that we have lots of close family nearby.
At that point, she volunteered that the two most major reasons she'd chosen us were because, first, we have a close family that we spend lots of time with. Second, she said that they told her what happened with the Allie ordeal and it broke her heart. She said she cried. She really wants us to be able to have a baby. That was so sweet, I almost cried right then! I can safely say that this birth mom has more maturity than the other two we've been matched with, combined.
We talked about hospital plans - she'd like us to be there (outside the room) for the delivery and she'd like us to be able to have access to him in the nursery for cuddling, feeding, etc. At this point in time she's saying she doesn't want contact with him in the hospital, as she thinks that will be easiest. However, we know this is highly subject to change! The counselors told us that a lot of birth moms express that interest, but later change their minds about it.
The openness of the adoption is something we're going to sort of play by ear at this point based on her feelings and wishes. We're pretty flexible in this realm, so whether she just wants pictures now and then or the occasional visit, we're good with that. She is focused right now on getting through the delivery and the relinquishment so she can return home to her life and I we think that's a good thing for her to be thinking about!
So... baby boy due in 19 days. It's so close... and so far away!! Anyone have a cosmic fast-forward button I could borrow???
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